Mean Women: Grown Up Cyber-Bullies

Published: Thursday, November 18, 2010 @ 2:24 PM
Updated: Thursday, November 18, 2010 @ 2:38 PM

From snide comments to personal attacks to just plain mean words, experts say anytime you are harassed, humiliated or threatened online it's cyber bullying!

Recently, Gina Moore-Sanders said she posted a creative story on an internet bulletin board. Soon, cyberbullies began taking swings at her.

"They said expletives, profanity that I was stupid and I was crazy," said Moore-Sanders.

Dr. Cheryl Dellasega, author of Mean Girls Grown Up, says this Internet finger pointing may be even more common among adult women. She has seen message boards and websites shut down over word wars! The bullying can be one rude comment, or a string of them. It can take place through e-mail, social networking sites, even instant messages.

"The topics that women are cyberbullied about are really endless. It could be a romance. It could be your parenting practices," said Dellasega.

Romi Lassally runs TruuConfessions.com, an anonymous online confession booth for women. She believes part of the reason women bear their claws is insecurity. "We probably see cyberbullying…maybe 1 in 10 confessions, maybe 2 in 10 comments. We don't want to post it. We want to offer a judgment free, safe place for women," Lassally said.

Dr. Dellasega believes it could also be a simple case of mean girls growing into mean adults. She says anonymity also comes into play, causing many women to say things they normally wouldn't in person.

What can you do if someone is being downright dirty online? What if you feel the need to respond?

Dr. Dellasega said, "They want you to fire back. The best thing to do is to turn off the computer and walk away."

Experts said there are a few simple rules to follow if you become the victim of a cyberbully.

Don't respond to them or engage in conversation.

Keep all abusive emails in a folder. If you are ever forced to take legal action, this will be your evidence.

If you don't respond to the bully and the harassment continues, you may need to seek help from the police. Sometimes the bully may have mental problems and could be dangerous.

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Pompeo nomination clears hurdle after another late GOP switch

Published: Monday, April 23, 2018 @ 10:13 PM

For the second time in a week, late decisions by a pair of GOP Senators provided the margin of victory for a nominee of President Donald Trump, as after fears of a rare confirmation rebuke, Republicans on the Senate Foreign Relations Committee on Monday got in line behind the nomination of Mike Pompeo to be Secretary of State, setting up a vote later this week for his confirmation in the full Senate.

The key votes were delivered by Sen. Jeff Flake (R-AZ) – who last week made a late switch to help salvage the nomination of Mr. Trump’s choice to run NASA – and by Sen. Rand Paul (R-KY), who had talked for weeks that he would never vote to shift the CIA Director over to the post of Secretary of State.

But after a late lobbying effort by President Trump, Paul stuck with the White House on Pompeo.

“I have changed my mind,” Paul said at a meeting of the Senate Foreign Relations Committee.

Back in March when the President fired Rex Tillerson from the Secretary of State’s job, Paul had made clear he was not going to vote for Pompeo, worried the CIA chief was too set on excessively using U.S. military force around the world.

Labeling Pompeo a “neocon,” Paul had said at the time that he would not vote for the CIA chief, worried that Pompeo was too much like the Republican Party that strongly backed with war in Iraq on Saddam Hussein.

“I simply cannot support Pompeo’s nomination to be our chief diplomat,” the Kentucky Republican made clear.

But after talks with Pompeo and the President, Paul gave in.

The late changes saved the GOP from an embarrassing foreign policy setback for the President – at a time when he is hosting the French President, and will later in the week receive the German Chancellor.

“He is extremely qualified for the position,” the President’s Press Secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders argued for Pompeo, as she joined GOP Senators in reminding Democrats of the bipartisan votes for past Secretaries of State.

“John Kerry was confirmed 94-3. Hillary Clinton was confirmed 94-2. Condoleezza Rice was confirmed 85-13. Colin Powell was confirmed unanimously by voice vote,” Sanders told reporters.

The turn of events came hours after the President had blasted Democrats for delaying many of his nominees, by stretching out debate time on the Senate floor, leaving little time for work on legislation.

While the President accurately nicked the Democrats for slow-walking many nominations on the Senate floor, certain high-profile choices like Pompeo, Jim Bridenstine for NASA, and Ambassador to Germany Richard Grenell have been held up in the Senate not because of Democrats – but because of a lack of unity among Republicans.

For example, Grenell’s nomination was sent to the Senate floor back on January 18. While Democrats did object to action in March, there has been no effort by Senate Republicans to hold a vote – which likely means there aren’t fifty votes for his nomination.

When Monday began, that was in question for Pompeo as well, but the support of Paul, Flake, and a handful of Democrats, means the President will get his Secretary of State.

“The President deserves to have a Secretary of State that agrees with him or her, in general, on a foreign policy direction,” said Sen. Marco Rubio (R-FL), as he argued for Pompeo’s approval.

There was a bit of irony, as Rubio last week had been one of the holdouts on the President choice to run NASA – a reminder, that with a 51-49 advantage in the Senate, and the absence of Sen. John McCain (R-AZ), Republicans can’t afford to lose more than one vote on anything in the U.S. Senate.

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Police looking for suspect in nail salon robbery in Dayton

Published: Monday, April 23, 2018 @ 10:05 PM

Police are looking for the suspect accused of breaking into Venus Nail and robbing the salon in Dayton Monday.

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A police report stated surveillance video showed a male holding a pry bar and forcing the front door open to the nail salon located at 1070 Patterson Rd. around 3:30 a.m.

The man was seen on video taking the money from inside a drawer and running out of the front door, according to the report. An undisclosed amount of money was reported missing.

The suspect was wearing a black coat, a hoodie over his head and possibly gloves.

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Memorial sign honors fallen Shelby County firefighter

Published: Sunday, April 22, 2018 @ 3:27 PM

Memorial sign honors fallen Shelby County firefighter

A memorial sign was dedicated today to fallen firefighter, Michael (Mike) J. Aselage, on SR 705 at East Edge of Fort Loramie in Shelby County.

Aselage was electrocuted in the line of duty on April 2, 1975. 

He served four years with the United States Coast Guard, but was discharged a year prior to his death, and was also a Probationary Member of the Fort Loramie Community Fire Company. 

On April 2, 1975, Aselage came upon a downed electric power line - that was blown down by the high wind from the previous night - on Ohio St. Rt. 705. 

According to the Shelby County Sheriff's Deputies, Aselage drove to the nearby home of Walter Silvers and telephoned the Sheriff's office to notify them of the power line, owned by Pioneer Rural Electric Company. 

He then drove back to the scene with the intention to direct traffic around the live wires, but as he got out of his vehicle and stepped onto the ground, his vehicle touched a 7,200 volt electric line and he was electrocuted. 

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Robert Bunsold from Sidney, Ohio, followed Aselage to the scene to help direct the traffic, but when he came in contact with Aselage's vehicle at the same time, Bunsold was knocked unconscious to the ground. 

Bunsold was transported to Wilson Memorial Hospital for treatment. 

Shelby County Sheriff's Deputy Thomas Bergam received earlier reports of the down power lines and was on his way to the scene when he witnessed the fatal explosion. 

Members of the Fort Loramie were dispatched to the scene to extinguish the fire that occurred by the voltage, but the Fire Department had to wait until a representative from Pioneer Rural Electric Company arrived to make sure the power was off. 

After power was securely off and the fire was extinguished, Aselage was removed via Ambulance. 

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Deputy injured, suspect in custody after 2-hour standoff in Champaign Co.

Published: Sunday, April 22, 2018 @ 6:43 PM
Updated: Monday, April 23, 2018 @ 2:10 AM

Officer hurt vid

One person is in custody and a deputy was injured after a police standoff that occurred in Champaign County Sunday evening.

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Officials were called to a residence near the 100 block of East Dallas Road for a complaint around 6 p.m. When deputies arrived, a man, unrelated to the complaint call, ran, prompting officials to chase after him. 

A struggle with one of the deputies occurred after they caught up with the suspect. The deputy was hit in the forehead, reportedly with handcuffs, causing injury, officials said.

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With the officer down, the suspect ran inside a house on East Dallas Road with handcuffs on, barricading himself.  

Police were in a standoff outside the house for over two hours, using a bullhorn urging to get the man to come outside. He eventually was brought out of the residence in handcuffs.

The deputy was taken to a local hospital. His condition is unknown.

There were more than 20 cruisers and fire vehicles at the scene, blocking the road at U.S. 68.

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