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Published: Saturday, October 07, 2017 @ 1:32 PM
— Rapper Nelly was arrested in Auburn, Wash., early Saturday morning after a woman accused him of raping her on his tour bus, Seattle Fox affiliate station, andreport.
KCPQ, known locally as Q13Fox, reported that the woman, who met the rapper at his Friday show at Auburn's White River Ampitheatre, called police around 3:45 a.m. PT.
They told the TV station that the incident occurred on the rapper's tour bus while it was parked behind a Walmart store, about 20 minutes away from the venue where he'd played with Florida Georgia Line hours earlier.
FoxQ13 reporter Brandi Kuse said Nelly, whose legal name is Cornell Iral Haynes Jr., was booked into the SCORE (South Correctional Entity) jail in Des Moines, Wash., at 6:29 a.m. PT.
He was charged with second-degree rape, indicating force was used or the victim was incapable of consent due to being physically helpless, mentally incapacitated or developmentally disabled.
However, his name had been removed from the jail's inmate roster by 9:30 a.m. PT.
The jail and Auburn Police did not immediately respond to USA TODAY's request for comment, nor did Nelly's representatives.
The St. Louis-bred rapper is on tour with country duo Florida Georgia Live and is scheduled to play in Ridgeland, Wash., on Saturday.
Published: Wednesday, July 18, 2018 @ 11:24 AM
— Everyone in a relationship knows how easy it is to accuse a partner of something they didn't do. It's their fault, you tell them, whether the spat is about towels on the bathroom floor, an angry mother-in-law or a missed restaurant reservation.
Sometimes you know you're wrong the second these words leave your mouth; other times you recognize your mistake in the days to come.
But the same people often miss a much more critical aspect of their relationship, despite repeated examples and gut feelings that something is wrong. It's far more difficult to realize that your partner may actually be at fault when you suffer from mental health issues.
"Some have the power to uplift our spirits, to lend comfort during life's strains and stresses, to weave fun and playfulness into our day, and to imbue life with a profound sense of purpose," psychologist and Harvard lecturer Holly Parker, author of “If We're Together, Why Do I Feel So Alone?,” told Bustle. "Sadly, others can pull us downward, drain our energy and emotional reserves, fill us with heartache and erode our happiness."
Some of these woeful partners contribute to a condition, like depression, that may have already been present. Others push a person with relatively strong mental health into a rapid decline.
In both situations, it's all too easy to miss the signals. Bustle writer Suzannah Weiss, for example, started obsessive hair picking (trichotillomania), had trouble concentrating on work and wasted lots of time watching television for a good while before she realized an emotionally abusive partner was the root cause of her mental anguish.
You owe it to yourself to figure out if you're having a toxic reaction to a relationship, psychologist Andrea Bonior told Health.
"Keeping a finger on your own emotions can help you develop insight about the people in your life, so you can choose healthier situations," she said.
And while each person has to weigh a relationship's worth for themselves, there are common signs that indicate a partner's actions are hurting your mental health:
Your self-esteem is slipping. If you can honestly say you were more confident and felt better about yourself before this relationship got going, your partner could be the one lowering your self-esteem, Parker said. The routine might be subtle, like a partner who talks about themselves constantly while asking you very few questions, which can lead you to feel less interesting. (This could also be a symptom that you are in a relationship with one type of narcissist.) Or it could be more obvious, a constant barrage of overt insults that reaches emotional abuse proportions.
"When one of the people you're closest to is making you feel inferior, you may start to believe you are," Weiss noted.
You're always walking on eggshells. A controlling relationship partner can do plenty of damage even without physical threats or violence. "It can simply be that you feel frightened to share your opinions—you're constantly walking on eggshells because you're afraid of your partner's emotional reactions," Bonior noted.
Your physical health has tanked since the relationship started. Sure, it could be a coincidence. But Parker warned that an unhealthy relationship can cause headaches, insomnia or muscle pain. The link to mental health? If one of those physical problems has erupted due to your relationship, it may indicate an underlying mental issue as well.
You're relieved when your partner checks out. Of course you could just be losing interest, but a physical sense of relief when your partner leaves after you've spent substantial time together could indicate your partner's causing you stress. Give this observation even more credit if your relief when your partner departs is accompanied by "a sense of weight and physical tension in the parter's presence," Parker noted.
You go to great lengths to distract yourself from the relationship. This is a psychological arc: when you are in a relationship with someone, you will make every attempt to avoid negative thoughts about them. When the negativity threatens, it can cause you so much cognitive dissonance you will do anything to push it to the back of your mind. Some of the distraction techniques can wear away mental health, like oversleeping or playing video games for long hours.
Published: Tuesday, June 12, 2018 @ 6:00 AM
— Women are about to smash a glass ceiling this weekend, and it should come as no surprise.
These ladies carry hammers and axes.
Jake Preston, the organizer of the annual Hunks and Ladders calendar, said this year’s Hunks and Ladders Firefighter Challenge will be co-ed for the very first time.
That means female firefighters will battle for glory at the event set to start at 3 p.m. Saturday, July 21, at The Greene, 4450 Buckeye Lane in Beavercreek.
Preston said he is excited to have ladies included in the fund-raiser.
“Why not let our sisters in the fire and EMS services take a crack at it?” he said.
Firefighters try to woo the crowd as one-by-one they compete in an obstacle course during the challenge.
The event also will include a performance by the band Stranger, beer sales and other activities.
Funds raised at the free event and from sales of the 2018 Hunks and Ladders calendar benefit A Special Wish Foundation Inc., Miami Valley Firefighter/EMS Memorial Association and Pink Ribbon Driven.
Preston is searching for this year’s competitors.
The fitness challenge is open to all Ohio firefighters.
Audience members and judges — this writer included — will help select the top 12 firefighters for the 2019 Hunks and Ladders calendar.
A champion will be belted and receive a $1,000 travel gift certificate. The second-place winner will receive a $500 gift certificate and the third-place winner will receive a $250 gift certificate.
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Hunks and Ladders was started in 1987 as a fundraiser for the burn unit at Children’s Hospital.
The 1988 calendar was Hunks and Ladders’ first.
All 118 firefighters featured in the project’s 30 years are featured in this year’s calendar, which is on sale now at the Dayton Firefighters Credit Union, 338 S. Patterson Blvd., Dayton.
The calendars also will be sold at the combat challenge in July.
Through the years, Hunks and Ladders firefighters were recognized by talk show host Oprah Winfrey and appeared on Phil Donahue’s national show.
The first combat challenge was held in 2015.
Want to go?
WHAT: Hunks and Ladders Firefighter Combat Challenge
WHEN: Begins at 3:30 p.m. Saturday, July 21
WHERE:The Greene, 4450 Buckeye Lane, Beavercreek
Published: Wednesday, July 18, 2018 @ 9:53 AM
— It's easy to fall in love with your child's chubby cheeks and pudgy legs. But by the age of two, if your toddler is heavier than the other children of the same age, it's possible that he or she may be overweight.
How can you tell the difference between normal baby fat and an actual weight problem? Here's the skinny on excessive weight and obesity in children:
Is my child overweight?
According to the Centers for Disease Control, the Body Mass Index (BMI) is the best indicator. BMI is a measurement of someone's body fat based on his or her height and weight. A child at a normal or healthy weight should fall between the 5th and 85th percentiles for children of the same age and gender. If your kid's BMI is at or above the 85th percentile, then he or she is overweight. BMI scores in the 95th percentile are considered obese.
You can use a BMI calculator, like the one on the KidsHealth website, to find out your kid's BMI. All you have to do is enter age, gender, height and weight and the tool will give you the BMI and a chart showing the percentile.
What to do if your child has a high BMI
KidsHealth noted that a high BMI is not always a sign of trouble. There are certain times when a child might gain weight - during a growth spurt for example - and the BMI will go up temporarily. That's why most doctors track these numbers over time. It's important to see if there's a consistent trend.
Most pediatricians start keeping track of your child's weight around the age of two. If you're worried that your little one might be at risk, bring it up during your next visit.
How to manage your child's weight
Being overweight can lead to quite a few problems for your little one. Overweight or obese children often end up with other health issues and they can carry their weight struggles into adulthood. The CDC noted that "children with obesity can be bullied and teased more than their average weight peers. They are also more likely to suffer from social isolation, depression and lower self-esteem."
Published: Wednesday, November 29, 2017 @ 1:18 AM
ATLANTA — A Delta Air Lines passenger is upset after being mistaken for a human trafficking victim.
Lawrenceville, Georgia, resident Stephanie Ung and her friend were returning from a birthday trip in Cancun and coming home to family on Thanksgiving when they were stopped and questioned by officials after the flight arrived in Atlanta. Her brother Henry Ung described the incident in a Facebook post alleging racial discrimination.
Stephanie Ung, a 26-year-old kindergarten teacher in Gwinnett County, said, “They just kept questioning me.”
“I was embarrassed at the airport,” Ung said. “I didn’t do anything wrong. ... This whole experience pretty much has me traumatized.”
Delta said its flight attendants “are trained to look out for signs of possible trafficking.” Amid a campaign to stop human trafficking in Atlanta and beyond, some airline and airport workers have been trained to look out for such signs.
Delta said in a written statement the two women were “observed by another customer to not be in possession of their passports — a possible indicator of a human trafficking event. Delta took the concern seriously and contacted the appropriate authorities who addressed the customers upon landing.”
“While their investigation did show that our customers were not being trafficked, we train our crew members to remain alert and use their professional experience and practice best judgment to ensure the safety of customers,” the airline said.
Delta also said: “We do not tolerate discrimination and are troubled by any accusations of discrimination. We have reached out to speak with our customers directly.”