Girl Scouts say not to force your kids to hug relatives this holiday season

Published: Friday, November 17, 2017 @ 6:24 PM

A Girl Scouts story says parents should not force their daughters to hug relatives and others if they do not want to do so.
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A Girl Scouts story says parents should not force their daughters to hug relatives and others if they do not want to do so.(Jonathan Kirn/Getty Images)

A parenting story on the Girl Scouts of the United States of America website is discouraging parents from forcing their daughters to hug relatives at holiday gatherings -- and any time during the year.

Titled, “Reminder: She Doesn’t Owe Anyone a Hug. Not Even at the Holidays,” the Nov. 2 article says encouraging young girls to go give a relative a hug or kiss as a greeting can lead to compromised views of consent.

“Think of it this way, telling your child that she owes someone a hug either just because she hasn’t seen this person in a while or because they gave her a gift can set the stage for her questioning whether she ‘owes’ another person any type of physical affection when they’ve bought her dinner or done something else seemingly nice for her later in life,” the article said.

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Girl Scouts parenting expert and developmental psychologist Dr. Andrea Bastiani Archibald explained the impact of telling young girls, “Go give your relative a big hug!” or “Give them a big kiss!”

“The notion of consent may seem very grown-up and like something that doesn’t pertain to children, but the lessons girls learn when they’re young about setting physical boundaries and expecting them to be respected last a lifetime, and can influence how she feels about herself and her body as she gets older,” Archibald said.

Archibald said that unfortunately, people who prey on children exist and young girls need to be taught at an early age what consent means and how to get help if their rights are violated.

Comments on the organization’s Facebook post of the article were mixed.

“No girl is going to seriously think she has to get physical with a guy to be polite, just because she had to give Aunt Betty a hug at Christmas when she was little,” one woman wrote.

“Our kids deserve to decide what they do with their own bodies,” one mother commented. “Forcing them to give hugs takes that away from them. Sure, teach kids to be respectful. But give them choices for how they show affection.”

“Please,You have gone overboard. One, no one MAKES a child gives a hug. Two, Don't assume physical affection leads to negative behavior,” a self-identified senior scout wrote.

“Of course we all want our kids to be loving and kind,” another mother wrote. “But doing something that doesn’t feel right to them just because an adult wants you to is wrong.”

“Boys don't owe hugs either. I only ‘made’ my kids hug and kiss my dad 1x...it was the day before he died...other than that, never have made them hug or kiss anyone if they weren’t wanting to,” another Facebook user commented.

The Girl Scouts story says that the placement of boundaries isn’t meant for children to be rude, but that a high-five, a wave, or a “hello” or “thank you” can be alternatives to hugs and kisses. The organization also says that if a child decides to show affection in a hug or kiss on their own accord, that’s fine -- as long as it’s her decision. 

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Fake kidnappers target mom after daughter posts about vacation

Published: Wednesday, April 05, 2017 @ 6:32 AM

Patricia Hebner
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A Massachusetts mother thought her worst nightmare had come true when she was told that her daughter had been kidnapped while on vacation.

The caller told Patricia Hebner that she needed to pay a ransom or else her daughter would be killed.

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It was all a scam, but a very elaborate one that had Hebner very worried about her daughter in Mexico.

“A man came on and said, 'I have your daughter; she's in the back of the van. I'm going to kill her unless you get me some money,'” Hebner said. “There was the screaming crying. It was like, 'Mom, help me, Mom, help me, Mom.’ I said, ‘Victoria, is that you?’”

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Hebner kept the scammers on the phone while she went to a neighbor’s home and had them call for police.

“She's claiming that she got a phone number. She wants traced, that somebody may have taken her daughter,” a dispatcher said on a 911 recording of that phone call.

Wrentham police are warning that scammers are now tracking people on social media. An Instagram post from Victoria about going away may have tipped them off.

“I think they got into her phone and saw my number. I was her mom; they knew they can get money from me,” she said.

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Man delivers own baby on side of highway after wife goes into labor

Published: Thursday, May 24, 2018 @ 8:05 AM

Father Delivers Own Daughter on Side of Highway

A Lowell, Massachusetts, man had a special delivery to deal with on the highway: his own baby.

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Samuel Beyene's wife Rahel Estifanos called him at work Wednesday morning, saying she was having contractions.

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"We start driving, and all of a sudden, she says, 'Oh my God, something is pushing. Something is coming out,'" Beyene said. "I say, 'OK, we’re almost there. We have 10 minutes to go.' She says, 'No, no, no, Sammy, you don’t know there's something coming out.' And I look down and I see the head."

Before they could make it to the hospital, Beyene pulled over on the side of Route 93.

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Wilmington police dispatchers told Beyene on the phone that they were on their way, but their new baby, Lidya, was impatient.

"Slowly but surely, I pull the baby up," Beyene said. "All of a sudden, the baby is in my hand."

The mother and baby are happy and healthy, resting at Winchester Hospital. 

Now that the stress is over, Beyene can joke about the situation.

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"We're gonna give her a little nickname, 93, at the bottom," Beyene said. "Lidya 93, since she was on the highway."

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WATCH: Adoptive mom's heartwarming video shows older boys including shy son in basketball game

Published: Wednesday, May 23, 2018 @ 8:25 AM

WATCH: Adoptive Mom Shares Heartwarming Moment Between Her Kids, Local Boys

A video and message posted by a Green County, Oklahoma, mom is spreading quickly on social media.

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Christy Rowden posted the video Monday afternoon after a heartwarming moment at a park.

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Rowden said she was at the park with her two children that afternoon when a bus of students from Oologah Upper Elementary pulled up and started playing on the basketball court.

Rowden’s 7-year-old son was adopted from Uganda. Rowden said he can be shy and, as a result, stood back as the older boys played basketball.

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Soon after, the fifth-grade boys reportedly came up to her son, Asher, introduced themselves and invited him to play.

The boys quickly welcomed him into their game, cheering him on and giving high-fives.

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Rowden said the moment brought a tear to her eye, especially since she is the mom of a black boy in a mostly white community.

Rowden shared the post to remind people that there is still good in the world and to thank the children who were so kind to her son.

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Children may face drowning danger 24 hours after hitting the pool

Published: Monday, May 23, 2016 @ 7:47 PM
Updated: Monday, May 23, 2016 @ 7:47 PM

Dad Recognizes 'Dry Drowning' Symptoms In Son After Reading Viral Story

As summer vacation draws near, parents and children are heading to the pool.

 

Parents may know to guard against drownings in the pool, but there is also a risk hours after a child has been out of the water.

 

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"A child could die 24 hours later after they have been in the water,” Barbara Byers of Canada’s Lifesaving Society told Global News. "The ones you have to keep an eye on are kids who go under, inhaling and coughing up water in the process. This can happen in a bathtub as well if the child goes face down in the water."

 

A Global News report has alerted parents for what to look for.

 

When a child inhales too much water, it can irritate their lungs and cause a buildup of fluid. The lungs may run out of air if too much liquid builds up.

 

"Drowning is silent," Byers said. "When fluid gets in the respiratory area, they can’t scream, they can’t shout."

 

Although Byers told Global News death from what was once called "dry drowning," but is now simply called drowning, is rare, parents can look for the following symptoms :

 
     
  • Difficulty breathing

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  • Extreme and unusual tiredness

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  • Abnormal behavior

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  • Persistent coughing

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  • Chest discomfort

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According to the Centers for Disease Control, children ages 1 - 4 have the highest drowning rates in the United States. Among children ages 1 - 14, it is the second-leading cause of unintentional injury-related death, behind motor vehicle crashes.

 
Furthermore, parents should never leave children unattended in the water and if any of the above symptoms are observed, they should not be afraid to take them to a doctor, who may perform an X-ray and will listen for fluid in the lungs.

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