Man donates liver to stranger; she gives him her heart in return

Published: Thursday, October 27, 2016 @ 11:21 AM
Updated: Thursday, October 27, 2016 @ 11:54 AM


            Man Marries Woman He Donated His Liver To
Man Marries Woman He Donated His Liver To

Nearly two years ago, a man donated a piece of his liver to a stranger, and last weekend, she gave him her heart in return. The two were married in a church outside of Chicago this weekend.

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When doctors diagnosed Heather Krueger, 27, with stage 4 liver disease, they told her she had just a few months to live.

"They immediately told me I was going to need a transplant," Krueger told CBS News. "By that time, I could really feel my body shutting down."

But there wasn't much time to find a donor.

But one day, Chris Dempsey, who had never met Krueger, overheard a colleague at work talking about her situation. He decided to get tested to see if he'd be a match. The former Marine said he is programmed to help others.

"I spent four years in the Marine Corps and learned there never to run away from anything," Dempsey told CBS. "So I just said to myself, 'Hey, if I can help, I'm going to help.'"

After finding out that they were compatible, the two met for lunch to discuss what the process would be like.

The transplant was successful, and the two stayed in touch, eventually falling in love. Last weekend, a year and a half after the liver transplant, they tied the knot in a ceremony in front of family and friends.

"You are the most incredible man I have ever known," Krueger told Dempsey in her wedding vows. "You believe in me, and you make me feel amazing every single day. Because of you, I laugh, smile, and I dare to dream again."

Posted by Christopher Dempsey on Sunday, October 16, 2016

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How to survive a break up with your best friend

Published: Thursday, January 18, 2018 @ 4:17 PM

Here are 7 tips from psychologists and bloggers on surviving a break up with your best friend Realize that the struggle is real Understand that friendship can be fleeting Banish the thought that the breakup's your fault Get communication established at the beginning of the end Avoid important conversations via text Keep busy Honor the role of friendship in your life

When the Four Seasons sang that bit about "breaking up is hard to do," they clearly meant romantic relationships.

Breaking up with a best friend might be even harder. "Friends aren't just icing on the cake of life – they're the cake," psychologist Thelma Duffey stated in Psychology Today. "Our friends are the people we let in. They're the people who can get under our skin, for better or for worse, and they're the ones in which we choose to invest."

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The Mayo Clinic also hails the positive health benefits of having good friends, from the esoteric like increased happiness to the scientifically-proven reduced risk of depression, high blood pressure or unhealthy body mass index (BMI) for folks with close connections.

When your best friend moves away (hard), deserts you (harder) or betrays you (hardest), losing those benefits can trigger a life-altering event. Just don't count on society to see it that way.

Ryan O'Connell summed it up nicely in Thought Catalog: "A dumped person is seen as a totally tragic sympathetic figure and is given the appropriate support to help 'make it through.' When friendships end, when the 10-year bonds you have with someone who feels like family start to dissolve, we're left with no instruction manuals. We don't have a movie to turn to or a book to read. Pop culture has pushed it under the rug."

Another irony: while you'd run to your best friend when you get dumped, there's no one to run to when you break up with your best friend.

So that leaves it up to you to get through the tough time with your chin up and ready to try again. This roadmap for getting beyond a BFF breakup includes seven tips from psychologists and bloggers who have been there, done that:

Realize that the struggle is real. A feeling of being unwanted comes with any friendship breakup, and that is hard to bear for anyone who has trusted an attachment, psychologist Seth Meyers noted in Psychology Today. "In my clinical work, I find that the confusion has to do with the following differentiation: You know exactly why it hurts so much when you lose a lover, but you tell yourself that a friend leaving you shouldn't be as painful."

But it is. "Even though friendship breakups don't include the loss of sex, men and women experience a similar sense of loss when a friend cuts off a relationship. The bottom-line feeling between is the same: 'He or she doesn't want me anymore.'"

Understand that friendship can be fleeting. "The notion of lifelong friends is absolutely a rare commodity," Meyers acknowledged. Even the closest ones may be circumstantial or temporary, regardless of how connected two friends feel at one point in time. "Acceptance is the key to recovery from the loss. You must also keep in mind that some friendships formed when you were young or in an unstable or impressionable point in your life may not fit you as you evolve and grow over time."

Banish the thought that the breakup's your fault.  It can be easy to start thinking you were "not a good enough friend," "easily forgotten" or "not worth making time for," RealBuzz noted. It's not true, though. Everyone goes through a friendship breakup at some point; if they didn't, we'd all still be hanging out with the same friends we had in daycare.

Get communication established at the beginning of the end. This isn't easy, or fun, talking to someone who just hurt your feelings or has left you furious. "But whether you're doing the breaking up or you're the one being broken up with, it's very important to communicate with the other person," Dr. Coral Arvon, Director of Behavioral Health and Wellness at Pritikin Longevity Center + Spatold Glamour. "Face-to-face communication is best, but if that isn't possible then try speaking over the phone."

Avoid important conversations via text. "Feelings and words can be easily misconstrued in text messages and can lead to even more damage," noted Arvon.

Keep busy. Similar to the end of a romantic relationship, you want to stay active and distracted after a BFF breakup, sex therapist Gloria Brame told Glamour. "Every time we lose a relationship or person we cared about it's like a little death," she said. "Try not to grieve alone. That can snowball into depression. Instead, reach out to others and let them try to cheer you up."

Honor the role of friendship in your life. Don't let the message be that since one friendship ended, you're done with friendships, advised PT's Duffey. "Know that at the end of the day, your life is richer – your history is richer – because of your friendships and because you have it in you to be a friend."

If you're not in the agonizing end stage of a cherished friendship, take the opportunity to spruce up the connection, advised Meyers. The next time you're tired after work and you postpone responding to a friend's call, pick up the phone and talk for a minute anyway. Perhaps if we learn to feed our friendships as much as we feed our romantic relationships, we could spare ourselves a few painful breakups.

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College Basketball: Wright State Raiders seek fifth straight victory

Published: Friday, December 01, 2017 @ 10:28 AM
Updated: Friday, December 01, 2017 @ 10:30 AM


            Wright State’s Loudon Love puts up a shot over Miami’s Logan McLane during their game Tuesday, Nov. 14 at Millett Hall on the Miami University Campus in Oxford. The Miami University Redhawks basketball team defeated the Wright State Raiders 73-67 in overtime. NICK GRAHAM/STAFF
Wright State’s Loudon Love puts up a shot over Miami’s Logan McLane during their game Tuesday, Nov. 14 at Millett Hall on the Miami University Campus in Oxford. The Miami University Redhawks basketball team defeated the Wright State Raiders 73-67 in overtime. NICK GRAHAM/STAFF

Who: Wright State (4-3) at Western Kentucky (5-2)

When: 5 p.m. Saturday

Where: Diddle Arena, Bowling Green Ky.

Radio: 106.5-FM

Series: First meeting

Coaches: Scott Nagy is 24-15 in his second season at Wright State and 434-255 in 23 years overall. Rick Stansbury is 20-19 in his second season at Western Kentucky. He was 293-166 in 14 years at Mississippi State from 1998-2012, making six NCAA tourney appearances and five NIT trips before resigning. He spent two years as a Texas A&M assistant before coming to WKU.

Probable Wright State starters

Parker Ernsthausen;6-11;Jr.;C;4.9

Justin Mitchell;6-4;Sr.;G;11.8

Mark Hughes;6-4;Jr.;G;10.1

Louden Love;6-9;Fr.;C;8.7

Grant Benzinger;6-3;Sr.;G;13.0

Probable Western Kentucky starters

Darius Thompson;6-4;Sr.;G;13.4

Dwight Coleby;6-9;Sr.;F;12.0

Lamonte Bearden;6-3;Jr.;G;12.1

Taveion Hollingsworth;6-2;Fr.;G;11.6

Justin Johnson;6-7;Sr.;F;10.9

About Wright State: The Raiders have won four straight despite struggling at times on offense. Their defense has been solid, but they’re shooting 43.4 percent from the field and 30.6 on 3-pointers. … Love had a season-high 13 rebounds against Fairfield on Sunday and had 31 in the three-game Wright State tourney. He’s tied for second in the Horizon League with an 8.4 average. … Everett Winchester, a 6-6 forward, was named conference freshman of the week for the second time this season after notching 18 points and seven rebounds against Tiffin. He’s averaging 10.3 points and shooting 47.9 percent from the field. … The Raiders are trying to win five straight games for the first time since winning six in a row near the end of the 2015-16 season. … The Horizon League so far appears to be balanced this season. No team has fewer than two losses.

About Western Kentucky: The Hilltoppers are coming off a 83-51 thrashing of visiting Eastern Kentucky on Wednesday, putting seven players in double figures. They beat then-No. 16 Purdue and SMU the Battle 4 Atlantis in the Bahamas last week. Their first game in the event was a competitive 66-58 loss to No. 3 Villanova. … Jake Ohmer, one of six players averaging double figures at 10.7, was named C-USA freshman of the week after making 8-of-11 three-pointers in the tourney, including a game-winning trey in the 63-61 win over SMU. … Johnson was named to the C-USA preseason all-league team for the season straight year. He averaged 14.5 points and 9.4 rebounds last season and led the league with 14 double-doubles. … The Hilltoppers were picked to finish sixth among 14 teams in the conference preseason poll. Middle Tennessee is the favorite.

Coming up: Wright State plays at 7 p.m. Tuesday against visiting Ohio Valley University, a Division II program from the Great Midwest Athletic Conference located in Vienna, W.Va.

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College Basketball Preview: Wright State at Miami

Published: Monday, November 13, 2017 @ 3:08 PM
Updated: Monday, November 13, 2017 @ 3:08 PM


            Wright State University’s Justin Mitchell dribbles to the basket with Miami University’s Jake Wright behind him during their 89-87 win over Miami Tuesday, Nov. 15, 2016, at Wright State University’s Nutter Center in Fairborn. Mitchell is NICK GRAHAM/STAFF
Wright State University’s Justin Mitchell dribbles to the basket with Miami University’s Jake Wright behind him during their 89-87 win over Miami Tuesday, Nov. 15, 2016, at Wright State University’s Nutter Center in Fairborn. Mitchell is NICK GRAHAM/STAFF

Who: Wright State at Miami

When: 7 p.m. Tuesday

TV: ESPN3

Radio: 980-AM, 1450-AM, 106.5-FM

Series: Miami leads 19-13

Coaches: Scott Nagy is 20-13 in his second season at Wright State and 430-253 in 23 years overall. Jack Owens is in his first season at Miami after spending nine years as an assistant at Purdue and five at Southern Illinois.

Probable Wright State starters

Parker Ernsthausen;6-11;Jr.;C;6.0

Justin Mitchell;6-3;Jr.;G;13.0

Mark Hughes;6-4;Jr.;G;15.0

Louden Love;6-9;Fr.;C;6.0

Grant Benzinger;6-3;Sr.;G;16.0

Probable Miami starters

Nike Sibane;6-3;Fr.;G;3.0

Jalen Adaway;6-5;Fr.;G;15.0

Logan McLane;6-9;Sr.;F;9.0

Darrian Ringo;6-2;Jr.;G;5.0

Dalonte Brown;6-7;Fr.;F;8.0

About Wright State: The Raiders had a promising start to the season, albeit in defeat. They cut a nine-point deficit with 1:11 left at Loyola to two with 26 seconds to go, but they dropped an 84-80 decision. … Everett Winchester, a 6-6 redshirt freshman forward, had an impressive debut with 15 points. … The defense needs to be shored up, though. They allowed Loyola to shoot 75 percent in the first half and 55 for the game. … The Raiders have had a spirited annual series with the RedHawks. The home team has won each game since 2012-13. Wright State is the last to win consecutive games, prevailing 51-49 in 2011-12 and 67-59 in 2012-13. Miami won two straight with a 56-55 decision in 2009-10 and 55-37 victory in 2008-09.

About Miami: The Redhawks haven’t had a winning season since going 17-13 under the late Charlie Coles in 2008-09. They went 11-21 last season and haven’t won more than 13 games since going 15-17 in 2010-11. … They’re going with an infusion of youth, starting three freshmen and counting on another, Isaiah Coleman-Lands, as a top sub. He had five points and seven assists in a 55-54 win at Fordham to open the season Friday. … The RedHawks endured a blow in the offseason when Michael and Marcus Weathers both transferred after coach John Cooper was let go. Michael, who averaged team highs in scoring at 16.7 and assists at 4.8 last year, plays for Oklahoma State. Marcus, who averaged 9.7 points and 6.0 rebounds, is at Duquesne. … Darius Harper, a 6-9 Springfield High School product, averaged 2.9 points and 2.1 rebounds as a freshman last season. … The Redhawks were picked to finish last in the East Division in the Mid-American Conference preseason poll.

Coming up: The Raiders play their home opener at 7 p.m. Saturday against Murray State. The RedHawks play LIU Brooklyn in the Jamaica Classic at Montego Bay at 8:30 p.m. Friday.

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PREVIEW: Wright State opens season on road at Loyola

Published: Thursday, November 09, 2017 @ 12:15 PM
Updated: Thursday, November 09, 2017 @ 12:15 PM


            Wright State’s Justin Mitchell drives the lane during an exhibition game Nov. 3 vs. Wayne State. Allison Rodriguez/CONTRIBUTED PHOTO
Wright State’s Justin Mitchell drives the lane during an exhibition game Nov. 3 vs. Wayne State. Allison Rodriguez/CONTRIBUTED PHOTO

Who: Wright State at Loyola

When: 8 p.m. Friday

TV: ESPN3

Radio: 106.5-FM

Series: Wright State leads 24-16

Coaches: Scott Nagy is 20-12 at Wright State and 430-252 going into his 23rd season overall. Porter Moser is 89-105 in six seasons at Loyola and 194-206 in 13 years overall, including stops at Arkansas-Little Rock and Illinois State.

Probable Wright State starters*

Parker Ernsthausen;6-11;Jr.;C;5.2

Justin Mitchell;6-3;Jr.;G;11.5

Mark Hughes;6-4;Jr.;G;3.2

Louden Love;6-9;Fr.;C;NA

Alan Vest;6-3;Jr.;G;0.8

Probable Loyola starters

Aundre Jackson;6-5;Sr.;F;14.1

Marques Townes;6-4;Jr.;G;NA

Ben Richardson;6-3;Sr.;G;8.3

Donte Ingram;6-6;Sr.;G;13.6

Clayton Custer;6-1;Jr.;G;11.6

About Wright State: The Raiders graduated three starters but hope to have their leading returning scorer, Grant Benzinger, back for limited duty against Loyola as he recovers from offseason hernia surgery. … Mitchell finished second in the Horizon League in rebounds (8.3), tied for fourth in assists (4.0), eighth in field-goal percentage (53.4) and 11th in assist-turnover ratio (1.2-1.0). … The Raiders were 11-7 in the league last season for their fourth winning record in the last five seasons. … Love seems like an impact player after redshirting as a freshman last year. At 275 pounds, he’s effective inside and had a double-double in an exhibition win over Wayne State (Neb.) with 17 points and 12 rebounds. Mitchell had 23 points, 12 rebounds and seven assists in the game. … The Raiders play Missouri State, the Missouri Valley Conference favorite, on the road Dec. 19.

About Loyola: The Ramblers are in their fifth year in the Missouri Valley Conference since leaving the Horizon League. They went 18-14 overall last season and 8-10 in the league (they haven’t had a winning record in the MVC). They were picked third behind Missouri State and Northern Iowa in the conference preseason poll. … The Ramblers graduated their leading scorer, Doyle Milton (15.2 average), but they have a formidable starting lineup, though undersized. Jackson and Ingram were preseason first-team all-league picks. Custer averaged 3.0 assists last year, and Richardson shot 42 percent on 3-pointers. Townes is eligible this year after transferring from Fairleigh Dickinson. He averaged 11.5 points as a sophomore and had a streak of 13 straight double-figure games with a high of 26. … Loyola has 57 wins since 2014, its best three-year stretch in three decades. … Cameron Krutwig, a 6-9 freshman, came off the bench and had 10 points and nine rebounds in a 79-63 exhibition win over Lewis last week.

Coming up: The Raiders play at Miami at 7 p.m. Tuesday.

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