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Published: Thursday, October 01, 2015 @ 5:59 PM
Updated: Thursday, October 01, 2015 @ 5:59 PM
DINWIDDIE COUNTY, Va. — A father-to-be wept uncontrollably when he found out his wife was pregnant. They've been trying to grow their family for 17 years without any luck.
The couple lives in Dinwiddie County, Virginia. Dana Griffin-Graves and her husband Arkell Graves were getting ready for dinner one night when she asked him to open the oven an take a look inside. She secretly recorded the moment.
"You're pregnant!" he exclaimed over and over again. Dana told WRIC that she placed ultrasound photos in the oven, right next to a package of buns.
His wife told him she's already five months along, and she's expecting a baby boy on Feb. 16.
That's when her husband started to weep uncontrollably.
The couple told WRIC that they struggled for 17 years to have a child. Dana had four miscarriages and suffered a stillbirth.
“It was definitely a struggle. A roller coaster with emotions going back and forth,” said Dana.
Last week, she was shocked and thrilled to find out she was nearly five months along.
She recorded her husband’s reaction and posted it to Facebook to share with friends and family, but it has been viewed thousands of times by people all across the country.
Arkell says a stranger recognized him at a gas station this week.
“A lady just came up to me and said, ‘You’re the big guy who was on there crying,” Arkell said. “‘Everything is going to be okay. I’m praying for you.’ You know in these times we need prayer; So I will take all the prayers I don’t care how they come.”
Published: Thursday, January 18, 2018 @ 4:17 PM
— When the Four Seasons sang that bit about "breaking up is hard to do," they clearly meant romantic relationships.
Breaking up with a best friend might be even harder. "Friends aren't just icing on the cake of life – they're the cake," psychologist Thelma Duffey stated in Psychology Today. "Our friends are the people we let in. They're the people who can get under our skin, for better or for worse, and they're the ones in which we choose to invest."
The Mayo Clinic also hails the positive health benefits of having good friends, from the esoteric like increased happiness to the scientifically-proven reduced risk of depression, high blood pressure or unhealthy body mass index (BMI) for folks with close connections.
When your best friend moves away (hard), deserts you (harder) or betrays you (hardest), losing those benefits can trigger a life-altering event. Just don't count on society to see it that way.
Ryan O'Connell summed it up nicely in Thought Catalog: "A dumped person is seen as a totally tragic sympathetic figure and is given the appropriate support to help 'make it through.' When friendships end, when the 10-year bonds you have with someone who feels like family start to dissolve, we're left with no instruction manuals. We don't have a movie to turn to or a book to read. Pop culture has pushed it under the rug."
Another irony: while you'd run to your best friend when you get dumped, there's no one to run to when you break up with your best friend.
So that leaves it up to you to get through the tough time with your chin up and ready to try again. This roadmap for getting beyond a BFF breakup includes seven tips from psychologists and bloggers who have been there, done that:
Realize that the struggle is real. A feeling of being unwanted comes with any friendship breakup, and that is hard to bear for anyone who has trusted an attachment, psychologist Seth Meyers noted in Psychology Today. "In my clinical work, I find that the confusion has to do with the following differentiation: You know exactly why it hurts so much when you lose a lover, but you tell yourself that a friend leaving you shouldn't be as painful."
But it is. "Even though friendship breakups don't include the loss of sex, men and women experience a similar sense of loss when a friend cuts off a relationship. The bottom-line feeling between is the same: 'He or she doesn't want me anymore.'"
Understand that friendship can be fleeting. "The notion of lifelong friends is absolutely a rare commodity," Meyers acknowledged. Even the closest ones may be circumstantial or temporary, regardless of how connected two friends feel at one point in time. "Acceptance is the key to recovery from the loss. You must also keep in mind that some friendships formed when you were young or in an unstable or impressionable point in your life may not fit you as you evolve and grow over time."
Banish the thought that the breakup's your fault. It can be easy to start thinking you were "not a good enough friend," "easily forgotten" or "not worth making time for," RealBuzz noted. It's not true, though. Everyone goes through a friendship breakup at some point; if they didn't, we'd all still be hanging out with the same friends we had in daycare.
Get communication established at the beginning of the end. This isn't easy, or fun, talking to someone who just hurt your feelings or has left you furious. "But whether you're doing the breaking up or you're the one being broken up with, it's very important to communicate with the other person," Dr. Coral Arvon, Director of Behavioral Health and Wellness at Pritikin Longevity Center + Spa, told Glamour. "Face-to-face communication is best, but if that isn't possible then try speaking over the phone."
Avoid important conversations via text. "Feelings and words can be easily misconstrued in text messages and can lead to even more damage," noted Arvon.
Keep busy. Similar to the end of a romantic relationship, you want to stay active and distracted after a BFF breakup, sex therapist Gloria Brame told Glamour. "Every time we lose a relationship or person we cared about it's like a little death," she said. "Try not to grieve alone. That can snowball into depression. Instead, reach out to others and let them try to cheer you up."
Honor the role of friendship in your life. Don't let the message be that since one friendship ended, you're done with friendships, advised PT's Duffey. "Know that at the end of the day, your life is richer – your history is richer – because of your friendships and because you have it in you to be a friend."
Published: Friday, December 01, 2017 @ 10:28 AM
Updated: Friday, December 01, 2017 @ 10:30 AM
Who: Wright State (4-3) at Western Kentucky (5-2)
When: 5 p.m. Saturday
Where: Diddle Arena, Bowling Green Ky.
Series: First meeting
Coaches: Scott Nagy is 24-15 in his second season at Wright State and 434-255 in 23 years overall. Rick Stansbury is 20-19 in his second season at Western Kentucky. He was 293-166 in 14 years at Mississippi State from 1998-2012, making six NCAA tourney appearances and five NIT trips before resigning. He spent two years as a Texas A&M assistant before coming to WKU.
Probable Wright State starters
Probable Western Kentucky starters
About Wright State: The Raiders have won four straight despite struggling at times on offense. Their defense has been solid, but they’re shooting 43.4 percent from the field and 30.6 on 3-pointers. … Love had a season-high 13 rebounds against Fairfield on Sunday and had 31 in the three-game Wright State tourney. He’s tied for second in the Horizon League with an 8.4 average. … Everett Winchester, a 6-6 forward, was named conference freshman of the week for the second time this season after notching 18 points and seven rebounds against Tiffin. He’s averaging 10.3 points and shooting 47.9 percent from the field. … The Raiders are trying to win five straight games for the first time since winning six in a row near the end of the 2015-16 season. … The Horizon League so far appears to be balanced this season. No team has fewer than two losses.
About Western Kentucky: The Hilltoppers are coming off a 83-51 thrashing of visiting Eastern Kentucky on Wednesday, putting seven players in double figures. They beat then-No. 16 Purdue and SMU the Battle 4 Atlantis in the Bahamas last week. Their first game in the event was a competitive 66-58 loss to No. 3 Villanova. … Jake Ohmer, one of six players averaging double figures at 10.7, was named C-USA freshman of the week after making 8-of-11 three-pointers in the tourney, including a game-winning trey in the 63-61 win over SMU. … Johnson was named to the C-USA preseason all-league team for the season straight year. He averaged 14.5 points and 9.4 rebounds last season and led the league with 14 double-doubles. … The Hilltoppers were picked to finish sixth among 14 teams in the conference preseason poll. Middle Tennessee is the favorite.
Published: Monday, November 13, 2017 @ 3:08 PM
Updated: Monday, November 13, 2017 @ 3:08 PM
Who: Wright State at Miami
When: 7 p.m. Tuesday
Radio: 980-AM, 1450-AM, 106.5-FM
Series: Miami leads 19-13
Coaches: Scott Nagy is 20-13 in his second season at Wright State and 430-253 in 23 years overall. Jack Owens is in his first season at Miami after spending nine years as an assistant at Purdue and five at Southern Illinois.
Probable Wright State starters
Probable Miami starters
About Wright State: The Raiders had a promising start to the season, albeit in defeat. They cut a nine-point deficit with 1:11 left at Loyola to two with 26 seconds to go, but they dropped an 84-80 decision. … Everett Winchester, a 6-6 redshirt freshman forward, had an impressive debut with 15 points. … The defense needs to be shored up, though. They allowed Loyola to shoot 75 percent in the first half and 55 for the game. … The Raiders have had a spirited annual series with the RedHawks. The home team has won each game since 2012-13. Wright State is the last to win consecutive games, prevailing 51-49 in 2011-12 and 67-59 in 2012-13. Miami won two straight with a 56-55 decision in 2009-10 and 55-37 victory in 2008-09.
About Miami: The Redhawks haven’t had a winning season since going 17-13 under the late Charlie Coles in 2008-09. They went 11-21 last season and haven’t won more than 13 games since going 15-17 in 2010-11. … They’re going with an infusion of youth, starting three freshmen and counting on another, Isaiah Coleman-Lands, as a top sub. He had five points and seven assists in a 55-54 win at Fordham to open the season Friday. … The RedHawks endured a blow in the offseason when Michael and Marcus Weathers both transferred after coach John Cooper was let go. Michael, who averaged team highs in scoring at 16.7 and assists at 4.8 last year, plays for Oklahoma State. Marcus, who averaged 9.7 points and 6.0 rebounds, is at Duquesne. … Darius Harper, a 6-9 Springfield High School product, averaged 2.9 points and 2.1 rebounds as a freshman last season. … The Redhawks were picked to finish last in the East Division in the Mid-American Conference preseason poll.
Published: Thursday, November 09, 2017 @ 12:15 PM
Updated: Thursday, November 09, 2017 @ 12:15 PM
Who: Wright State at Loyola
When: 8 p.m. Friday
Series: Wright State leads 24-16
Coaches: Scott Nagy is 20-12 at Wright State and 430-252 going into his 23rd season overall. Porter Moser is 89-105 in six seasons at Loyola and 194-206 in 13 years overall, including stops at Arkansas-Little Rock and Illinois State.
Probable Wright State starters*
Probable Loyola starters
About Wright State: The Raiders graduated three starters but hope to have their leading returning scorer, Grant Benzinger, back for limited duty against Loyola as he recovers from offseason hernia surgery. … Mitchell finished second in the Horizon League in rebounds (8.3), tied for fourth in assists (4.0), eighth in field-goal percentage (53.4) and 11th in assist-turnover ratio (1.2-1.0). … The Raiders were 11-7 in the league last season for their fourth winning record in the last five seasons. … Love seems like an impact player after redshirting as a freshman last year. At 275 pounds, he’s effective inside and had a double-double in an exhibition win over Wayne State (Neb.) with 17 points and 12 rebounds. Mitchell had 23 points, 12 rebounds and seven assists in the game. … The Raiders play Missouri State, the Missouri Valley Conference favorite, on the road Dec. 19.
About Loyola: The Ramblers are in their fifth year in the Missouri Valley Conference since leaving the Horizon League. They went 18-14 overall last season and 8-10 in the league (they haven’t had a winning record in the MVC). They were picked third behind Missouri State and Northern Iowa in the conference preseason poll. … The Ramblers graduated their leading scorer, Doyle Milton (15.2 average), but they have a formidable starting lineup, though undersized. Jackson and Ingram were preseason first-team all-league picks. Custer averaged 3.0 assists last year, and Richardson shot 42 percent on 3-pointers. Townes is eligible this year after transferring from Fairleigh Dickinson. He averaged 11.5 points as a sophomore and had a streak of 13 straight double-figure games with a high of 26. … Loyola has 57 wins since 2014, its best three-year stretch in three decades. … Cameron Krutwig, a 6-9 freshman, came off the bench and had 10 points and nine rebounds in a 79-63 exhibition win over Lewis last week.